How to Make Friends and be More Social in College How to Approach Making Friends in College College is one of the best environments to make friends and meet others. Typically, there will be a ton of people who are around your age and who share similar interests to you on your college campus. However, meeting new friends in a new place can be pretty intimidating. If you’re worried about making friends in college, there’s no need to stress yourself out. It might actually be easier to make friends than you thought. Here are a few methods that you should consider trying: Dorms: Depending on your situation, you may or may not end up living in a dorm. This is where you will be able to meet friend’s outside of class. There’s no need to become try and force the issue and attempt to go around making friends with every single person in your dorm. Chances are, you ‘ll see most of these people on a daily basis, and that alone sets the groundwork for friendships to be built organically. Student Clubs: Many universities have a variety of interest based clubs and associations. Taking advantage of this resource is a great way to meet and mingle with others. If you’re someone who has trouble meeting new people, go sign up for a club – it’s a good opportunity to meet new people in natural way and can help you develop a health social life. Events & Parties: Take advantage of all the events and parties that take place on campus. Just because you go to something with one person does not mean you have to cling to them all night (or all day). Putting yourself out there a little bit and having fun at a party is a great way to get to know new people. Attitude is everything when it comes to meeting new people in college. No one likes a Debbie downer. Take a few risks and put yourself out there a little. You’ll be surprised by how far you can get just by being confident and friendly. If you’re shy, take it one step at a time. Try to approach people individually, versus in a large group. To begin with, you might want to try making small talk with your roommate (if you have one). After you get to know your roommate, slowly expand your circle outwards – get to know people down the hall. There’s no need to rush. Take your time and work at your own pace. Over time you will become more comfortable with the people around you and you’ll slowly get over your shyness. Tips for Freshmen to Make Friends If you’re a freshman and worried about making friends – think about it this way – pretty much everyone else in your year is in the exact same position you are. They’re also looking to make friends – it’s not like you’re the only one. Making friends and meeting people in Freshman year can be challenging for a lot of people, but don’t let it stress you out too much – join clubs, talk to people in your classes and in your dorm, and eventually you’ll find a way to build up your social circle. You should also try to arrive on campus a little early if possible. Get comfortable with the campus environment – this will remove one source of anxiety for you when class actually starts and you begin meeting new people. It’s also a great way to be helpful – many freshmen won’t really know their way around, so if someone is wondering where a particular building or lecture hall is, you can point them in the right direction. Attitude is everything when it comes to meeting new people in college. No one likes a Debbie Downer. Take a few risks and put yourself out there a little. You’ll be surprised by how far you can get just by being confident and friendly. Colleges and universities also typically try to give you opportunities to connect with people before you actually start school. Take advantage of these opportunities! You can talk to people online or even meet people who live in your area who are attending the same school. Don’t shy away from official school initiatives – many of them are designed to make your life easier as a freshman (and beyond). Attend orientations in your local area before school starts if they’re available, and if you get a ‘buddy’ or ‘pen-pal’ of any sort before you arrive on campus, it can’t hurt to reach out to them. On top of taking advantage of opportunities to meet people before your first semester officially begins, you should also try your best to attend events that are targeted specifically towards freshmen – these events are purposely set up for you to meet people, and what’s more, if you don’t attend these events, you might miss out on the more informal stuff that happens afterwards! Most people you meet in college will be reasonably nice and reasonably interesting, so don’t be averse to attending structured events to meet people. Tips for Transfer Students If you’re entering college as a transfer student, you’re at a bit of disadvantage socially – everybody else has already had time to settle in and form social circles. One solution might be to try out for Greek life. By becoming a member of a fraternity or sorority, you get the opportunity to meet a lot of people If you manage to get in, you’ve basically got a built-in social life, and even if you don’t manage to make it into the fraternity or sorority that you pledged, chances are you’ll have met a ton of new people (and done some pretty silly things) by the time you’re done. Another way to develop a social life as a transfer is to find clubs and activities that cater to your interested and hobbies – or you might want to join a club of society that specifically caters to transfer students.. Your school might actually organize events or gatherings that are designed to help transfer students get accustomed to their new campus life – make sure that you attend these events – you’ll meet others who are in a similar position to you and that’s generally a good starting off point for friendship. Tips for Students who Live Off Campus Just because you live off campus and have a commute doesn’t mean you can’t make friends. All it means is that you need to plan your day more carefully than others. If your classes all end at 4:00pm for instance, try staying on campus and participating in some kind of activity or club rather than going straight home. Consider getting in touch with people and meeting them in between classes to hang out. It’s not impossible to make friends if you commute; you just need to make a little bit more effort in how you do it. Things like Reddit and Facebook are huge on college campuses. Look up your school’s local subreddit or Facebook page. Don’t be shy to comment either. By joining in the discussions, you can get to know people and maybe even meet them on campus offline. Technology gives you an opportunity to meet people that you may have never crossed paths with otherwise.. Class is an obvious place to meet people. Consider reaching out to form a study group. This is a good way to kill two birds with one stone – it can help your grades and help you meet new people. How to be a Cool/Popular Kid In College (and Why You Shouldn’t Care) Here’s an amusing (and somewhat true) video about what college can be like: When you arrive at college, you’ll find that almost no one cares about your past or your reputation from high school (unless you robbed a bank or something). It truly is an opportunity to start fresh and build new relationships. A clean slate can be very liberating. It doesn’t matter what your high school experience was like – in college, you get to turn a new leaf and make new friends. In order to get off on the right foot in college, here’s a few things you can do: Firstly, Be Confident! Even if you have to fake it till you make it, confidence is important. No one will know who you are unless you make yourself known. It is important to get your name out there. Hang out in the common areas. Take your time and introduce yourself personally to different people. You have one chance to make a good first impression. Use it well. Say Hi to Everyone! Just by saying hello and being a approachable person can earn you a boatload of friends. Even if you are just passing by, say hi to those around you. Even if you keep walking, a simple smile and hi can go a long way. Thirdly, Listen to Others! Another good trick to is to be genuinely interested in others. People appreciate it a lot more than you think when you show interest in their lives. Talk to your peers and get to know them. Listen to what they have to say about their classes, family, and interests. Don’t be that guy/girl who just talks about themselves non-stop. The great thing about college is that it really doesn’t matter if you’re “popular” or not. Even small schools are generally large enough to make it impossible to know everyone. In high school, you might have been the only person interested in Japanese Kabuki theater, but colleges tend to be large enough and diverse enough that there’s at least a few people who share your interests – your goal should be to find them and get to know them. You can do this by taking the right classes or joining the right clubs/societies. Tips on How To Be More Social In College and Reduce Social Anxiety If you’re an introvert, you might think that you don’t really have a chance of building a decent social life when you start your freshman year – but you’d be wrong. College campuses are probably the easiest places on the planet to socialize, even for the introverted, the socially anxious, and the shy. On top of that, studies have shown that college friends tend to turn into lifelong friends – so it’s probably a good idea to put yourself out there even if you feel awkward about it. Start Making Friends Early On – One good way to becoming more confident, social, and outgoing is to start making friends right away from the beginning. It doesn’t matter if you’re introverted or extroverted. One great way to make friends quickly is to show up to the first few meetings/events of a club or society. College societies tend to be extremely welcoming to new joiners, so you should be embraced with open arms. Form a Study Group – Being in charge of a study group will improve your grades, and it’ll also will give you a chance to meet people with no real social expectations or pressure. If you’re a bit of a bookworm, your study buddies will love you for helping them out – you can nerd out without fear of being judged. Most college students take their education seriously and will like and respect others who do the same. Get a Campus Job – With a job on campus you can earn extra money and get to know your coworkers. This can also help you decide what you might want to do (or what you don’t want to do) after you graduate. Being sociable at your campus job will allow you to meet others and make money at the same time. College campuses are probably the easiest places on the planet to socialize, even for the introverted, the socially anxious, and the shy. College is about meeting new people and learning new things, but more than anything it’s about preparing you for adulthood – and one part of being an adult is have basic interpersonal and social skills, even if you’re shy or introverted. Chances are, after you graduate, you’ll need to be able to interview for jobs and figure out how to interact with colleagues in your workplace – think of the social aspect of college as preparation for that. Social skills are a huge part of being a well rounded person, and the college campus is a perfect opportunity for you to mak sure that you’re well equipped with these skills. What Is College Life Really Like? College is an opportunity for growth and learning. Unlike high school, people are in college by choice and take it a whole lot more seriously than high school. This can make the college environment much more enjoyable for a lot of people.. The variety and diversity that you’ll experience on campus is probably unlike anything you’ve seen before. Regardless of what you’re interested in, be it sports, Greek life, academic research, politics – chances are, there’s a group of people on your college campus who’re interested in the same things as you are.